Wednesday, Marie-Christine dropped a great link to a site about bullying. Included there was a description of wannabes. Obviously not all wannabes are bullies but many are, especially now. Here’s one characteristic that really hit home:
…is likely to be vilifying the profession they want to belong to or which they’re claiming to be part of or which they are claiming to represent.
I can’t tell you how much this annoys me.
I love this business. I think it’s a great business to be in -which is not to say I’m a fan of everything about it. It has long annoyed me when people talk trash about the business and how awful it is. If you don’t like it, leave it. I have noticed that people I thought were marginal (from other things they wrote), talk a lot of trash about the business but I didn’t think it was anything more than a base reaction like envy. Most people don’t make millions but we like the work so we make it work. There’s no other reason to stay in it. I’m always tempted to tell complainers that they’re better off running a franchise (and then to complain about that) but then this from the same source said a wannabe is:
…one of life’s chronic underperformers and is best described as ineffectual in everything.
And then I realized I’d always known that, I just hadn’t put the two together before.
There’s a big difference between a wannabe and a newbie. People who have a skill or something going for them, have a confidence from outside the business. They are centered in their place in the world even if they’re only now coming into this one. They’re newbies, never wannabes. Their responses are not defensive. Maybe that’s the reason I avoid working with anyone who waves NDAs at me; it’s a power grab intended to wrest the upper hand before the relationship has even had a chance to develop.
So that’s how you can identify a wannabe. They’re losers who talk trash about an industry that they either don’t genuinely belong to or are so marginal within it, it’s a miracle that haven’t been let go considering the current economic climate.